I have really been reflecting on my relationships, the trust issue in particular. I think I am naturally naive and too easy to trust people. For this reason I tend to keep to myself and mind my own bussiness. I guess this is my protective mechanism from becoming involved with dishonest, untrust-worthy people. I was never a quiet person, but I have learned to keep quiet and to keep to myself to avoid icky situations. Often my quietness is mistaken for being anti-social and unfriendly. I just don't like drama. I don't want to start trusting someone, then find out they are untrustworthy after I am already close to them. My query is "how do you deal with someone very close who is dishonest and often untrustworthy". At what point do you stop forgiving the dishonesty? At what point do you stop trying to re-build trust?
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Thought-provoking and valid questions. I also feel that honesty and trust are the most important things in any relationship. I had my share of problems due to my trust being broken by close people. I just wish there was a simple answer to all these difficult questions ! Life would have been much easier then :) One thing that I find solace despite all this is that there are still many nice people who pass their kindness and love through their random and short but beautiful acts. These small acts of happiness makes life live able and routinely bring smile to our faces :)
ReplyDeleteI have this terrible habit of shutting people out of my life if I can't trust them. While I do tend to gravitate to good people, I still feel guilty for not trusting certain people if they constantly lie to me or do things to hurt me -- especially if they're family.
ReplyDeleteBut, I've been learning to let go of the guilt (especially after talking with a counselor) by focusing on the people who truly love and care about me. Life's too short to let yourself be hurt by other people, regardless of who they are.
I have been having similar experiences with dishonest and shady co-workers. I'm not sure you can ever trust completely. I definitely want to stay as drama-free as possible so I totally agree with you.
ReplyDeleteIt so hard to determine the correct balance between shutting yourself off and trusting blindly. I guess it's just a part of the everyday struggle of life.
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